Getting married, every person dreams that the marriage will be one for life. But life makes its adjustments and sometimes you have to break up. What should you do before you file for divorce?
Count your expenses
A few months before your divorce, you need to calculate all your expenses. How much money is spent on utilities, your expenses, food, and your child? This will tell you what you can afford to give up after the divorce and what you can’t.
Take Care of Your Finances
If you don’t make a lot of money, you need to look for extra income while you’re married. In the same situation, if you don’t work at all, you need to find a job. Before you apply, you should set aside a “safety cushion” – a certain amount of money that can bail you out at first.
Take care of your place of residence
If you live in your own apartment, you should not have any problems. If the apartment husband or joint ownership, you need to take care of the place of residence: find out how much it costs to rent an apartment and put aside money for it.
Family and friends react differently to the news of your divorce. They may not support you and even condemn your decision. In that case, it is better to see a psychologist. It will prepare you morally for the separation and will support you during the divorce process.
Prepare the children
It seems to you that the children have no idea about anything. Not without reason, the French say that children and pet dogs know everything. They sense the tension. It is important to keep the child out of the divorce process. Support the children and wrap them in as much care as possible, but by no means pity them. Morally prepare your children for the divorce.
Think about the organization of the home
It is important to understand what you will do if, for example, a child gets sick? Who will be able to back you up with a job? Who will help you if the faucet leaks? Who will take you and your child to the doctor? Think through all the details of your future life.
Get a lawyer
Breaking up a relationship is always unpleasant, even if you and your husband are splitting up peacefully. But it is easier to do when you know where you will go and what you will provide for the children.